Learn to say "no"
Although, Jon Snow bent the knee to Daenerys, that was never a possibility for Sansa: Sansa made it clear to the Mother of Dragons that the North would remain a free state. Even in the way she told Daenerys, there was so much grace.
This is a prime example in learning that no means no. The capacity to firmly put your foot down is key to honoring yourself. It's not your responsibility to cater to other people's ego, feelings, and wishes. If someone else's demands do not sit right with your soul, honor your gut feeling. You know what's best for your well-being. If the answer you come up with is no, stick with it!
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End all toxic relationships
While I don't condone killing your enemies by execution a la Seven Kingdoms tradition, I do believe that cutting ties with toxic people is one of the best ways to show love for yourself. Not only are you announcing to the world that you value yourself above all else but it's a great boost to your confidence and self-worth.
One of the most memorable moments in "Game of Thrones" was when Sansa executed Littlefinger, the man who had been manipulating her — grooming her — for years. This moment acted as a visual metaphor for getting rid of those toxic people who are plaguing your life. Littlefinger was manipulative, conniving and, well, just plain evil.
So, as Sansa learned, one of the first steps to truly loving oneself is to learn the difference between one's true friends and frenemies. A true friend, ally, or lover will not manipulate you, thus causing emotional distress. Cut those ties with the Littlefingers in your life. It may not be easy, but it will be rewarding. Find the people you can trust with your life — your Briennes, your Aryas: This is your new tribe.
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Believe in yourself, no matter what
You truly cannot love yourself if you do not believe in yourself. The capability to be your own cheerleader in the face of adversity is the best loving you can give yourself. From the very first season of "Game of Thrones," Sansa knew she wanted to be a queen. As a young girl she proclaimed to her mother, "It's the only thing I ever wanted." Fast forward eight seasons, and you've got her coronation as Queen in the North.
It may not have been her original goal of becoming Queen of the Seven Kingdoms, but she is a queen all the same — and in some ways, it's even more meaningful: Winterfell is back in the hands of the Stark family and Sansa now has autonomous power over her beloved North (and she doesn't have to share the throne with any man. Can you say, "winning?").
Life will throw us curve balls but it is ultimately up to us to be the authors of our own lives. By being her own life coach, she wrote her own destiny. Arguably, other than Bran, she played the titular game of thrones better than any other character in the series. All hail the Queen in the North!
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