How do you know if you should break up with a toxic friend?
Wilson: "The easiest way to figure out whether a friend is toxic is by asking yourself, Do I feel better or worse after I spend time with this person? Do I like myself when I'm with them? Do I trust this person to be there for me? If your answer to those questions is no, it's time to break up.
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How can you break up with a toxic friend?
Wilson: "You can try a gradual route: Set boundaries that minimize your time and conversations with this person; turn down most of their invitations until they get the hint or the friendship fades away on its own. But the more mature approach is to be direct: Let them know that this friendship isn't serving you and that you need space from it. It's best if you can do this without anger or blame, as your goal isn't to vent your anger but rather to create distance. However, if your friend is unexpectedly open to hearing what you have to say, tell them what's not working for you about the relationship (make sure to use 'I' statements). Maybe they'll surprise you by acknowledging their role in the situation, and making an effort to change the dynamic."
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How can you avoid making another friend who may be considered toxic?
Wilson: "Once you get clear about what you really want in a friendship, stay true to those values moving forward. If you know you have a tendency to dive into friendships quickly, take it slowly for a change. Notice how you feel when you're with that person, and make decisions on whether or not to pursue the relationship based on that self-awareness."
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Any other important tips that can help when it comes to toxic friendships?
Wilson: "Every relationship we have teaches us something. A toxic friendship helps you learn more about what kinds of connections you do want to have in your life. It also shows you how to be a better friend; you learn how to treat others the way you want to be treated. Rather than regretting time spent in a toxic friendship, or blaming yourself for staying in it so long, think about what you can take away that will positively impact your future relationships."
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